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Solving Perfectionism by Pushing the Bird Out of the Nest

Solving Perfectionism by Pushing the Bird Out of the Nest
Something just isn’t right. Maybe if I move this photo over here and what about another edit on the previous paragraph? If you are striving for flawlessness and setting Mt. Everest type standards for yourself and others it might be time to look at perfectionism in your life. 
In our society we are often bombarded by images of perceived perfection, setting the bar very high for most human beings. We may feel undervalued or even depressed when we don’t meet our or others perceived standards. Striving to meet unattainable standards and fear of others judging us may even lead to procrastination and that is where pushing the bird out of the nest comes in.
My mother used to say to me; “just push the bird out of the nest.” I would hold onto my homework and agonize to the point of suffering over my perceived need for the project to be perfect. When she would notice that behavior, her antidote was the baby bird learns to fly when the parent nudges them out of the nest—let it go and it will find it’s way. She was wisely pointing out that what I had created was valuable beyond my own self-doubt and it will fly on its own. There is no sadness in causing something to merely be and therein lies the healthy perfectionism of our creative selves. 
How do we let go of perfectionism and feel good enough? Awareness of the judgment words like should, need, have to, must, and ought to represent an excellent place to start. These words instill a sense of negative pressure on how we respond to our goals or tasks. Exchanging them for I want to, I will, I can and understanding that just a change in language can affect our actions. Deriving pleasure from a job well done without the need to berate ourselves with self-judgment will set you free to fly.