Three Ways Assertive Communication is Positive Communication
Many women get through the workday with a grin-and-bear-it mentality, keeping their thoughts to themselves when someone contradicts or interrupts them and saying “yes” to every project that gets tossed in their direction. They’d love to be more assertive but worry they’ll be seen as rude, bossy, or aggressive.
The fact is, assertiveness isn’t the same as aggression. When you’re assertive, you stand up for yourself and your beliefs. At the same time, you recognize and respect others and their beliefs, creating a space of mutual respect and appreciation that allows for honest, positive communication.
Here are three ways assertive communication is positive communication:
1. Being assertive tells people exactly what you want
When you’re assertive, you set your expectations, which reduces confusion and is more likely to get you the results you want. For example, telling your boss “I want to take a vacation in two weeks” is more direct and more likely to result in a vacation approval than saying “If it’s possible, I wouldn’t mind taking some time off in the next month or so.”
2. Being assertive demonstrates your confidence
Assertive communication is direct and demonstrates that you know exactly what you’re talking about. When people recognize your confidence, they know they can trust you. Be polite, but firm, when asserting your viewpoint.
3. Being assertive gives you back your time
Taking on more than you can handle is physically and emotionally damaging. Learning to say “no” when you’re close to maximum capacity is vital for your mental health.
Assertive communication is positive communication because it creates an honest dialog. The person or group you’re communicating with can only work with you and help you if they understand what you want and what you need to make it happen. When you approach a conversation from a place of mutual respect and understanding, assertive communication can lead to better relationships in all aspects of your life.